I’m honestly so tired of swiping and seeing nothing but group photos for the first three slides. Tbh, it’s a total vibe killer. I get it, you have friends and you’re social, which is great, but if I have to play a guessing game to figure out which person you are, I’m probably just gonna move on. It’s not even that the photos are bad, it’s just that it feels like a chore to find you.
Your main photo should always be a solo shot. Period. I’ve found that the best ones are usually from a trip—you know, that one photo where you’re actually relaxed, the lighting is hitting just right, and you aren’t trying too hard to look "cool." Travel photos are such an easy conversation starter too. Instead of a boring "hey," someone can actually ask where you were or tell you they've been there too. It feels way more organic.
I was actually reading about the timeline of attraction the other night because I was curious if that "instant spark" is even a real thing or just something from movies. I found this really interesting breakdown on how long to fall in love scientifically and it basically confirmed that while the initial physical pull happens fast, the actual "falling" part takes a bit more time and consistency. It made me realize that putting a clear, happy solo photo out there is the best way to start that clock. You want people to see you, not your three cousins and your best friend from college.
Plus, when you use a solo shot from a vacation or a hike, you look way more confident. It shows you’re comfortable in your own skin. Save the group shots for the 4th or 5th slot if you really want to show off your squad. But for that first impression? Just give us a clear view of your face. It makes the whole experience so much more positive and way less confusing. Trust me, it makes a huge difference in the quality of matches you get. Just keep it simple and be yourself, imo. it's much better to be seen for who you are right from the jump.